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Boundaries: Distraction in Relationships

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Boundaries: Distraction in Relationships

            So, the other morning while heading into the office, I drove by a 3 car crash. It looked just like most car crashes I see on the road these days. Car #1 rear-ended car #2 which then rear-ended car #3. Since I am reading Boundaries in Marriage, I decided to use this as my next blog. Hope you can follow it, feel free to leave the blog, get three matchbox cars or 3 objects and label them 1, 2, 3. Place them in a line. Got the visual, now slam car #1 into car...

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The First Year of Grief

The First Year of Grief

I remember being surprised when I began studying Grief Counseling, about what research indicates is the most difficult periods during the first year following a death.  The times when grief will rear its ineffable pain are: 1) at the end of the first week; 2) the three month mark; 3) holidays; and, 4) the one year anniversary.  The one that was surprising to me is the three month mark.  The practical explanation is that much of the personal support given to a bereaving family fades at around the three month period.  Those who were initially stopping by, perhaps preparing meals,...

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Why is the Ice Cream in the Pantry and Where are the Clean Towels?

  True Story...It’s early in the morning, I open the pantry to take out the cereal and there was a half-gallon container of ice cream sitting on the shelf.  Technically, it was just the container sitting on the shelf; the ice cream (I use the word “ice” loosely) was dripping onto each shelf below forming a cascade of sticky, gooey liquid all the way down to the floor.  Not a great way to start the day!  As I cleaned the mess, I searched for an explanation of how this could have happened. I realized that while putting away the groceries...

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2017 Lessons and Blessings

2017 Lessons and Blessings

     I am ready for 2017 to be gone. It has been one of the hardest years of my life. In 2014, I had found a strength I did not know existed in the depths of my soul and once again, I had to rely on something supernatural to survive. The darkest moments of my life began in February 16, 2017 with a phone call. I instantly knew something was wrong, and within 5 hours I was faced with the greatest fear I have ever known. Over the next 2 months, confusion, doubt, and just plain uncertainty loomed every waking...

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Grieving vs. Mourning, Is There a Difference?

Grieving vs. Mourning, Is There a Difference?

Clients have asked me, “What is the difference between Grieving and Mourning?”  These terms are often used interchangeable, but it is important to note that there is a difference.  Grieving is a term used when speaking of the internal experience of the one who has lost a loved one to death.   Grief is what we think and feel on the inside such as sadness, fear, regret, even numbness (the sense of being without feelings) are all part of grieving.  Mourning is the term applied to the external process we go through in adapting to the death.  This might look like...

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